Rimming Addiction - A Real Problem

As far as sex addiction is concerned, having a compulsive desire to “rim as many women as possible” is certainly one of the more unusual sexual disorders. For those who are not familiar with the term rimming, an urban word for anilingus (from the Latin “to lick”) it is the act of stimulating another person’s anus with the use of your mouth, usually the tongue. Also referred to as anal-oral, but more commonly as a rim job, the act of rimming is a form of erotic humiliation that has become popularised in modern culture through wide spread acceptance within the pornographic industry. Anilingus is surprisingly common, a recent survey of 803 lesbian and bisexual women found that 10% reported doing it often, and 29% reported occasional rimming. Few statistics are available for heterosexuals, but medical professionals suggest that relaxed attitudes towards anilingus have lead to a spike in STIs and STDs.

Henry (not his real name), 38, a former sex addict suggests that “because I always see it in porno flicks on the internet, it sort of seemed normal, it never occurred to me that it was something that I could diagnosed as being addicted to.” It is indeed unusual, but sex addiction can come in many forms, and numerous acts of sexual behaviour can fall under the scope of sex addiction. He went on to say “I would literally be thinking about it all day, I would wake up and think, who can I rim today?”

Henry is now fully recovered from his disorder but says the consequences of his actions will always be with him. “I spent everything I had on prostitutes, sometimes I would rim them on street, down an alleyway, if possible in a hotel room, but I didn’t really mind where it was, I just needed my fix.”

Rimming, like any other sexual activity is not without its risks, it can easily spread diseases like herpes and HPV, STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhoea, and cause intestinal infections and parasitic worms to enter the body. Henry is all to familiar with the risks, adding “I was always ill when I was going through my rimming phase, I knew what to tell my doctor to get the right kind of antibiotics, but I would never admit that I had been rimming, I was just too embarrassed.” It could be this “embarrassment” that limits the available information that authorities hold on the spread of diseases and infections caused by rimming, and it’s certainly not something people seem prepared to shout from the rooftops.

With a constant flow of extreme porn on the internet, and mobile apps that allow strangers to meet for casual encounters, the rise of sexually transmitted infections and associated sexual disorders looks likely to continue. Henry eventually found help and went to an intensive inpatient rehab for 3 months, and now looks forward to a brighter future with his new girlfriend. His advice for anyone thinking of rimming – “definitely don’t do it, it’s just not worth the risk.”